Tracy Wilson

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Finding the Extraordinary in an Empty Nest

This is sort of a Mother's Day P.S., but it's also hope for those of you facing an empty nest. 

It's gonna be okay. Really. It will. 

We can get through Mother's Day and Father's Day and any other special day without our kids being home. And... it can actually be great!

You just need one person in your corner to be by your side, add some fun to it, and understand that it's hard. My one person was Hubs and he hit Mother's Day out of the park!

We've been married for twenty-five years and somehow, we're still figuring things out. But I think this weekend is how it's supposed to go in a marriage because it worked so darned well:

I was honest and told him I was sad about my first Mom's Day without our kids living at home. He took my feelings seriously and he took on my cause. He was determined to make Mother's Day great. That honesty, the listening, the sharing of burdens and trying to make them lighter, that must be the formula because it made everything better.

Hubs was thoughtful and careful with my feelings, and he built in a lot of fun by orchestrating a day-long food and beverage tour to my favorite places, which ended with him taking me shopping for clothes. (We're both still laughing about clothes shopping AFTER a food and beverage tour!)

Best of all, I felt loved and cared for. And one benefit I never expected from Mother's Day was slowing down and reconnecting with my man, the one who made me a mom in the first place. The whole thing felt like it pulled us back into one another's orbits. With or without our sons at home, what more could I ask for? What better gift could I receive?

We can do this, Underdogs. We can do life with kids in the house. We can do it with them out of the house. And, we can have fun.

Life continues in the empty nest. And there is always something extraordinary.

Hubs, you're the extraordinary today.

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